Just another Personality Disorder

Have you ever felt like a fish out of water, a bull in a China shop...? Is everyone around you talking the same language and it is all flying over your head and landing God alone knows where! Have you been feeling this way for some time now? If yes, you have some issues to be tackled and sorted out NOW. If no, then you are on top of the world. You have nothing to worry about. It is the former persona that needs some long deserved attention.
It is quite possible that this person has had an emotionally neglected childhood, has a poor sense of self worth and is still struggling to come to terms with the world. Everyday is a new revelation and he discovers things that have never struck home at the right time. For example the mysteries of social networking, even at 40, bewilders him no end! It can never be as simple as smiling and chatting away or lifting a phone at a whim and reconnecting! Even a simple action as calling someone over the phone will be loaded with worrying questions such as,"will they remember me?", "they may think that I have some underlying motives to call", "suppose they don't want to talk to me?" etc., etc., etc....
Why is it that some people find themselves out of sync most of the time? These are also the people who, at the best of times, can out do themselves on the social front by transforming into a socialite at short notice, shining bright like a moth before it snuffs itself out! This person can be the life of the party, can deliver the most eloquent of speeches, can shoot out witty repartees and attract a lot of admiration by his/her very attractive personality and respectable demeanour. The very same person can clam up irrevocably, taking people by surprise as his/her personality suggests otherwise. He/she shrinks away from any type of social activty. He/she sticks to the tried and tested way of life, never wanting it any other way. He/she is comfortable with only people closest and known for a very long time, spouse, parent, sibling, best friend, co worker...people whom he/she meets every other day. Even the suggestion of doing something new, meeting strangers, not sticking to the plan can bring about nervous tantrums that will confound the common person. All these trifles only contribute to the breaking down of existing 'comfortable' relationships and further corrodes the quality of life surrounding these poor, confused personalities. They are caught up in a vicious cycle of destruction and they need help from the people closest to them.
Just imagine a socially inhibited personality wedded to an out going extrovert who needs to be surrounded by people all the time; the adventurous kind looking out for social possibilities at every turn; the attention hungry omnivore...
What do you foresee before the total annihilation?

Misguided Parents

Why is it that parents rush in to think, speak and act for their children when the latter are capable of doing it for themselves? Parents tend to smoothen life's journey for their offspring by making sure that kids live it right based on their (parents) own experiences. In the mad rush to protect their children from the big, bad world, they are always on call to soften the blows, cushion the falls, wipe away the tears even before it all happens. There is no room today for the old adage ," Experience is the best teacher". And thus the spoilt brat syndrome rears it ugly head even while the doting parents are all praise for the little one's extreme antics and uncontrollable tantrums. Children today should not hear the bad word 'no'. They must not be refused anything because when they grow up, the rest of the world too will bow down to their every whim and fancy!
Today's young parents are full of the child psychology jargon and hype that having a baby, creates. They are gushing with the expectancy of doing an excellent job of child rearing and it is for this reason that they practically read all the parenting books available on the stands and continually browse the parenting websites which make them feel modern and on par with the rest of the yuppie parenting community. The mothers know exactly what to do because they have done their homework; and if nothing else works, they always have a handy pediatrician's mobile phone number to fall back on. Young and inexperienced fathers like other average men, simply depend on their wives as they know better; they follow instructions faithfully even going to the extent of repeating parrot-like the technical details of burping the baby, describing special nappies for tiny boys etc.
They are spewing parenting and baby literature left, right and all over to whoever has the patience to listen, basking in their own smug knowledge that they are perfectly perfect in bringing up their children as well rounded personalities even while their child spits on their audience for it! Parental instincts have been practically brushed aside to make room for book advice.
Yuppie parents, please wake up to the fact that you are only messing up your children by not letting them experience the world and all it creations, living or dead, on its own terms! Save yourself the regrets; aspire to reduce the number of times that you may have to moan in anguish,"where did we go wrong?".

Introduction - ASPIRATIONS

I have just created this blog so that I may express my deepest aspirations. They are many but the most fervent of the lot is that I might have a positive and rich impact on my fellow human beings. It takes a view from "out of the circle" to appraise a situation neutrally and this provides a fresh and clear approach to any problem. I hope that, through my blog, I can influence people to open up, share their woes especially concerned with their children so that most of them (parents) might have a shoulder to lean on in frustrated times.